We bought this for our anniversary and love it. We've both used it and it always turns us on. It's very sexy to see the nipple being pulled... I thought I couldn't handle it on my nipples so I planned to just use it on my husband, but turns out that I can handle it if I position the clamps below and to the side of my nipples instead of on them directly. The only negative is that sometimes it takes a minute or two to adjust the height of the bar when we're going from me to him. If you like the concept of bondage, you'll love this. Whether you're looking at it on your partner or on yourself, it screams bondage. Don't get it if you don't like bondage (why are you on this site?) or if your nipples are too sensitive for clothespins. Try those first before you buy this. Overall I think it's fantastic - a very erotic expression of sexuality.