Many subs have known for years that entering “sub space” during a good BDSM scene can be a good and pleasurable experience which carries over into the rest of their lives. Today the New Scientist magazine reports that Spanking ‘brings couples together’, something already known by BDSM fetish couples but now supported by preliminary research. Of those couples who were studied, the sub in all scenes (especially sub women) experienced increases in stress hormones at first but when scenes went well these levels quickly returned to normal after the scene. Couples, despite the increased stress levels, reported that afterwards they felt closer and more intimate with each other.

It is, of course, important to note that these good effects were only present in couples whose scenes went well and who both enjoyed their roles. Further research will need to be done to see if these same results are present in couples where orgasm is not.

Of course, for those in the BDSM community, this is not exactly news. However, for many who experience shame or ostracism due to their sexual practices, this might be a ray of sunshine. Perhaps with more scientific study and acceptance of the BDSM lifestyle the taboos surrounding it will decline in the same way some of the taboos around female masturbation have. Until then, get your own floggers and whips and see for yourself if a little bit of spanking brings you and your partner closer together!

So after the *pitiful* attempt that I made last week at a BDSM Mondays post I set up some stuff this weekend so I’d have a good post for you all today.

attempt = fail. *pout*

We’re (hubby and I) are in the middle of trying to get a second car, which is taking about every free second of our lives. Needless to say my plans for the weekend (learning how to use a whip) were postponed. I’m working on getting a whole whips series together for the blog, but I’ll probably post my (sure to be) amusing attempt at learning how/using one here next week. Be warned, I’ve reserved a video camera to document the experience!

In the mean time, here’s a BDSM Microfantasy Monday (yay for killing two memes at once!):

The cuffs just hung there. Tempting. Threatening. Promising…

From her position she could see the buckles, lolling open like a dog’s panting tongue. The fur lining, still slightly wet, had gained a spiked look. It’s disheveled appearance reminded her of the current fad of hairstyles the young frat boys in her lectures preferred.

She was beginning to get cold. The sweat slowly evaporating from her skin, leaving behind a salty residue that itched so deliciously. Longing to scratch, she looked back at the cuffs. They hung there. A promise. A threat. Was there really a difference?

A breeze made its way into the room and swirled across the bare skin of her stomach, swaying the cuffs slightly on their chain from where they hung. Before it let go, she saw the drop coming. A bead of sweat or water or cum or lube… something. The remnants of the moment just passed, the preparation for the moment just to come. She saw it congeal and bead up, hanging precariously from the tip of the leather thong of the cuffs’ buckle. Saw the bead getting larger and larger… Realized that if it dropped it would hit her stomach. Realized that with the breeze in the room, it would be cold. Very cold.

In one of those strange moments, time became flexible. Stretching forever, longer and longer. All that existed was her stomach and the drop of liquid about to land on it. She began to tremble, knowing she couldn’t move, shouldn’t move… Not knowing when it would drop, her muscles tensed and released of their own accord.

And then, suddenly, it was falling. And so was she…

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